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Meeting an Online Date for the First Time

Going from an online wink to a first date is nerve-wracking, romantic, and exciting — all at the same time! If you met someone on WYP and have a date in the books, the wait can feel like an eternity. To help you prepare for the big day, we’ve curated a list of the best URL to IRL tips for meeting an online date for the first time. Whether you’re a WYP pro or a newbie, you’ve come to the right place to make your date a romantic success.

Timing is Key When Meeting an Online Date

Before agreeing to meet someone in person, make sure you’re ready to take this step. No matter how long you’ve been chatting, it’s important to feel comfortable and listen to your gut feeling. 

At the same time, you don’t want to let too much time go by between your initial online connection and the first in-person date. Wondering how to strike the right balance? These pointers can help you decide:

  • Avoid exhausting conversation topics before meeting in person
  • Schedule a date while excitement is in the air
  • Look for the right moment to carry the online conversations offline

Choose a Familiar Location

Once you’re ready to take it to the next level, you’ll have to choose a place to meet. For practical purposes, many online daters choose a familiar location when meeting an online date for the first time. This could be a restaurant, theater, or any other spot that’s convenient for you.

The idea here is to make sure you know the area and the experience. That way, you won’t waste time deciding what to order or drive too long on your way back home. For ease of logistics and safety, these are some popular first date locations for singles everywhere:

  • Your favorite neighborhood restaurant
  • A local coffee shop
  • The seasonal town fair

Remember to Include a Fun Activity

Nothing against dinner and drinks, but if you’ve been talking to someone online and there’s chemistry why not throw some extra fun into the mix? It gives you something to do besides just sitting at a table, and also gives you something to talk about after the date.

Looking for some ideas? Think of the conversations you’ve had and the mutual interests. If you’re still unsure, these are some suggestions that you and your date may want to try out:

  • Take a Sunday morning hike and then grab a well-deserved brunch
  • Choose a bar where you can belt it out at karaoke
  • Go to a concert and end the evening with drinks

Wear a Great ‘Fit When Meeting an Online Date IRL

First impressions matter, and choosing the right outfit sets the mood for the rest of the date. Depending on where you go, you also want to make sure that your clothes are appropriate. When in doubt, pick a handful of options and consult with a friend. 

Trying your outfits on before the date also ensures that you’re comfortable with what you’re wearing. Don’t forget the shoes and hairdo — especially if your date plans involve walking or you want to look sharp from head to toe. Here are the reasons why the first date outfit matters so much:

  • You’ll feel great about yourself and this makes you feel even more attractive
  • Your date will know that you care
  • It’s a great chance to show off your sense of style

Let Someone Know Where You’ll Be

While you Facetime your bestie to choose the perfect look, let them know where and when you’re meeting an online date for the first time. Safety is important on first dates, especially if you’re meeting an online match. 

Knowing that someone is aware of your location gives you peace of mind and lets you enjoy the date more. These are some safety tips for first dates:

  • Share your location with someone who’s nearby
  • Don’t hesitate to call your backup if you feel unsafe
  • Limit your alcohol intake

Think About Your Greeting and Conversation Starters

From arrival to the moment you say goodbye, you want to avoid awkward first-date moments. If you think about how you’ll say hello or break the ice, it helps you keep the nerves from taking over and also makes your date feel at ease. 

Thinking about these things ahead of time lets you enjoy the experience. Here are the reasons why:

  • Lets you feel in control
  • Makes the conversation easier
  • Sets the tone for the rest of the date

Listen Attentively After Meeting an Online Date In Person

As the saying says, less is more. And first dates are not the exception. Even if the excitement makes you extra chatty, remember to breathe and take the time to listen to your date. This helps you get to know them better and figure out if you really like them.

If you focus on your date, this also allows you to relax and enjoy the experience. These are our favorite tips to help you focus on the moment:

  • Put your phone down and save text updates for bathroom visits
  • Let your body language communicate the chemistry
  • Ask your date questions to learn more about them

Talk About the Next Date

If you like each other, why not? If you’re not feeling it, why waste their time? Either way, it’s a great idea to be honest with your date and let them know how you feel. This helps you both set expectations for the relationship.

If you feel that talking about the next hangout is too bold of a move for a first date, here are some thoughts that may help you change your mind:

  • Confidence is sexy and your partner will love to see how great you feel around them
  • You can make plans that both of you feel excited about
  • It gives you something to look forward to between dates

For many singles, first dates feel intimidating. But with the WYP app and our list of tips, your time together is sure to be a success. And after having so much fun, both of you will count the hours until your second rendezvous.