Buying Down the Age Gap Disadvantage
  • Posted Sep 12, 2011
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Since we now have over 100,000 unlocked dates between older men and younger women, we decided to do some analysis to find out if the stereotype stating that younger women are attracted to older men because of their money is true.   What we found out may surprise you…

The Magic Six Year Age Gap

First, we found out that women in generally are most attracted to men SIX years older than they are.  If you are a guy and you are about six years older than the woman you are trying to ask out, she is most likely to accept the lowest price for a first date!   This seems logical.  People are a better match for each other if they are at the same level of maturity.  And if the results of our study is right, then we would expect the average woman to be about six years more mature than the average man of the same age.

Cost of Dating Younger Women

Second, we found that when a man is over TEN years older than the woman he wishes to date, he will have to overcome an age gap disadvantage.  For every year he is older than the woman after the TEN year number, he will need to spend approximately 13% more.  On average the man who is 40 years older will need to offer 400% (or 4 times) more than the man who is 10 years older to convince the same woman to go out on a first date with him.

The results from our study is graphed below.

Man - Woman Age Gap Pricing Graph

Man - Woman Age Gap Pricing Graph

Note:  Over 80% of the first dates occurring between older men and younger women do fall in the ideal age gap of under 10 years of age difference.

Age As an Online Dating Selection Criteria

People are generally shallow and materialistic when it comes to first impressions on most online dating website.   The reason someone writes or responds to another person is usually driven mainly by a set of shallow attraction criteria such as how attractive a person’s pictures are, or what the person writes down as their body type, ethnicity, education, income or age.   Age plays a very important role as to whether someone writes or responds to your online dating profile.  This is probably the main reason why recent surveys have found that most men and women choose to “lie” about their age on their profile, or to upload photos of themselves when they were five or ten years younger.

Lying about your age or uploading a much younger photo may be an effective way to get someone to go out on a first date with you on a traditional online dating website, but the likelihood you will impress that person on the first date is quite remote.  Obviously, the better strategy is to be up front about your real age and to upload the most recent photo of yourself, and let your wallet do the negotiations for you on

At, our hope is that if you fall outside of a person’s list of shallow attraction criteria such as looks or age gap, money may be used to level the playing field.   Money can close the age gap disadvantage by helping someone get the first date.   With a first date, this person will now have the chance to show off his or her personality and appeal to the other person’s deeper set of attraction criteria.

I am a firm believer that the deeper levels of attraction does not take place on a physical or superficial level, but at an intellectual level once you really get to know someone.  That’s what the first date is for…

What is your ideal dating age gap?

If someone falls outside of that age gap, will you still consider an offer to go on a first date with him or her?

Have you gone on a date with someone that falls outside of your age gap comfort level?  How did the date turn out?

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