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A Dating Guide for Singles Who Don’t Play Games

We know you’re tired of endless swiping on dating apps hoping to meet a like-minded, exciting partner. Sometimes it seems too much like a game, while what you’re really after is a real connection. Luckily WhatsYourPrice.com is loaded with other singles who have the same goals in mind! But how can you be sure the ones you match with are also in the same headspace? Our dating guide can help!

It is going to take a little bit of effort on your part first since you have to decide what you want in a partner (and promise yourself that you will not settle for anything less). If that task seems daunting, don’t sweat it. Many of us struggle to define exactly what we are looking for. But knowing the answer makes all the difference.

Own Who You Are

A good way to start your search is by putting pen to paper—or fingers to keyboard—and writing down the highlights of what makes you a great catch. Then try making a chart with headings for major life categories: fitness, travel, money, geography, career, and spirituality, for example, and list exactly what you need in someone else. No doubt you’ll find this exercise empowering and enlightening.

For example, in the Fitness category, you might want someone who cares about his or her appearance and goes to the gym most days. Or perhaps you would prefer to be with someone who likes to take evening walks or daily hikes. Maybe you would welcome a partner who is really into sports and will introduce you to new activities you haven’t tried before. Pickleball anyone? For Travel, maybe you want a partner who is always up for a quick weekend road trip, or you would rather have someone who regularly whips out his or her passport for jaunts to exotic locales.

The list doesn’t have to be long, and it doesn’t have to drill down to the most teeny-tiny detail. (Do you really need to write, “Has to love hedgehogs” if “Animal lover” would suffice?) 

Have Fun and Expect the Unexpected

The important thing to remember here is that your focus should be on what you want, not what you don’t want. Giving any thought to negative statements seems to only bring them into being. Dating should be FUN, right? Lean into the possibility that you might just be pleasantly surprised by someone way different than you, but similar in the most important ways.

Every dating guide should reiterate that there’s no need to obsess about physical attributes—sometimes The Fates have a way of making sparks fly even with someone who we never thought might be “our type.” Your biggest priority is to find a person who appreciates amazing, wonderful you just as you are. The good news is, WhatsYourPrice.com will get you straight to the best options. (We can almost hear Ariana’s voice in our heads: “I see it, I like it, I want it, I got it!”)

Remember the ball is in your court, so ask lots of questions while you’re out having a great time with your new matches. It’s the best way to learn about your dates while you’re out exploring the options. And it will save you both precious time if you aren’t getting the answers you were hoping for.

Dating IRL

If you realize you’re on a date with someone who seems to tick all the boxes but you’re still not feeling a true connection, then hop back on WhatsYourPrice and see who else is a contender. We promise there are thousands of other members to choose from! Like motivational speaker Zig Ziglar once said, “The first step to getting what you want is to have the courage to get rid of what you don’t.” (And, as we know, that worked for Ari, too, right? Thank you. Next!)

Single and ready to mingle, but not into playing games? Log on to WhatsYourPrice and start making smart moves. Visit the rest of the WhatsYourPrice Blog for more dating guides, tips, and tricks.