Three Rules to Effectively Complimenting Women
  • Posted Mar 20, 2013
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1.) Too Much of a Good Thing…

is a bad thing. At least, when it comes to compliments. A woman will always analyze what you say, even if it is meant to flatter. Whether your intentions are good or bad, a multitude of compliments is often perceived as an underlying motive. This is especially true on a first date—the trick to admiring a woman is simple: quality over quantity. Most importantly, enter every date with a mindset to be observant, not likeable. That way, your compliments will be timely, honest, and feel less manufactured.

2.) Avoid Stating the Obvious

Never tell a woman that she looks “hot” or “beautiful.” Always utilize adjectives that are less common. Otherwise, you will be viewed exactly as that: common and unoriginal. When complimenting, also be as specific as possible. For example, telling a woman she has a great smile when she laughs has much more weight than telling her she’s “the most beautiful girl in the restaurant.”

Here are some examples of more unique ways to admire a woman:

  • “Wow, you have a very warm personality. I feel very relaxed around you.”
  • “I like that you’re quick-witted—it’s refreshing to speak with someone who can keep up.”
  • “Has anyone told you that you have really cute dimples when you smile?”
  • “I appreciate the sarcasm—it’s good to meet a girl with a great sense of humor.”
  • “The girl-next-door is so hard to meet nowadays. I’m really glad I asked you out.”

Notice that each example is concise—this tells a woman two things: you are paying attention to her and you value her for being unique.

3.) Pair Compliments with Gestures

As you open the door for her, tell her how well her dress looks. Or as you pour her wine, comment on how you both made a great selection. Being gentlemanly implies that you are classy and mean well. Combining these gestures with your actual sentiment is even better.


What are some other ways to effectively compliment a woman?

14 Responses to “Three Rules to Effectively Complimenting Women”

  1. Leroy says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome on this blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements, but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” section for more details. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!

  2. TheWiseMan says:

    Women love my compliments all the time so long as my friends Ben Franklin and U. Grant also compliment the inside of their purse.

  3. Sawduster says:

    Compliment her shoes. Women obsess over buying shoes.

  4. Reality Check says:

    I think there’s little reason to be judgmental about this site. The site is about money, and women should not be forced to be attracted to anyone they’re not really attracted to, especially these really beautiful women who can meet anyone they want. This site has no reality to it. I just enjoy the illusion as I go. I love this site. And if she is attracted to you, you’ve hit gold!

  5. Man says:

    OMG these examples are horrible.

    1) Warm personality – will be understand as “Well, I want to make a compliment but you are not special so I try this one.”
    2) sarcasm – on the first date sarcastic is the worst thing can happen. And sarcasm is not a good sign for a good sense of humor. Irony is a better sign.
    3) Girl-Next-Door – congratulation guy with this words you will lose. You reduce her to an ordinary girl but woman want to be special

    Make compliments about her style, the combination of colors. Make compliments about her eyes.

  6. ashwin says:

    Excellent advice!!!

    It works!!!

  7. Bee says:

    Oh I don’t agree with these tips at all. No, no, no…first of all I know these men who talk like that and maybe it’s me, but it all seems so contrived. Pairing your compliment with a gesture…women are smart and intuitive we know it’s “move” we may appreciate the effort but we also know it’s probably something you practiced and we tolerate it and accept it graciously but I personally could care less for the drama. Same thing with “has anyone told you have cute anything?” Contrived. Why not just say how you feel without asking dumb/cutely questions that there is no answer for. Yes no, who cares? Just give a compliment stop trying to sound clever.

    Calling someone the “girl next door” meh! What a let down. So now we know you don’t think we are the femme fatales we would like you to think we are. I’m going with the guy who thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the room!

    Sarcasm? What kind of thing is that to compliment someone on?

    You like that someone is quick-witted and can keep up? Why you think you are so much smarter than everyone else? Sounds kind of self-congratulatory to me rather than a compliment for her.

    Warm personality, I feel relaxed around you. That’s a good thing if you genuinely mean it and that is something important to you. It’s a great way to build a relationship with someone you care about.

    Always tell a woman she looks beautiful! I don’t know about most women but I can’t imagine one not wanting to be thought of as beautiful. How you say it matters. Beautiful inside and out, glowing. YES! I can’t think of a bad way to say a woman looks beautiful to be honest.

    Hot is a touchy one. Could indicate you just think of her as a sex object in some cases that’s okay. In others not at all. Could be considered rude.

    • Tom says:

      I agree with you.
      I think an important thing is to be honest if you make a compliment and spontaneous.
      I should never sound like it is learned our like a plan. Listen to your heart.

      It is better to give her all your attention. That is a great compliment.

  8. Bee says:

    I have a question. I have contacted customer service and they have tried to help but totally do not understand my question. Any other women having problems with the new format on the site?

    I see this counter at the top of the page that tells me how many DATES I have but I don’t see who they are. I have a hard time figuring out why it’s there and how to clear it back down to zero. Sometimes it clears on it’s own, sometimes it clears when I scroll through all the stuff on the right hand column and click on a random profile. It’s annoying!

    • TJ says:

      Bee, I agree, I don’t like the new format. It isn’t intuitive at all!

      • Bee says:

        Thanks TJ I feel like I’m the only one. Customer service does not understand no matter how may different ways I try to explain my issue and it never gets resolved.

        I have been off the site for a week or more and come back to find 1 DATE. Problem is I’ll never know who that is because when you click on it nothing significant happens.


  9. bobby the k says:

    I keep seeing women with handles that end with ro. I understand what xo means, but I can’t figure out what ro means. Anyone out there know?

    • AnJane says:

      I’m pretty sure thats a misspelling… if it’s not then she is way too young for any of you cause then she probably picked that up in her school…

    • Bee says:

      Not a clue. Will you use it in a sentence for us? Maybe that would help.

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