First dates can be intimidating, especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a bit. From picking the perfect setting to knowing how to keep the conversation going, WhatsYourPrice has compiled a list of the top rules for making sure your next first date is a success.
First dates are all about getting to know the person sitting across from you. But sometimes, even after a few minutes, you just know the connection isn’t there.
When picking out a date location, keep timing in mind. For example, don’t commit to a multi-course meal, instead suggest grabbing coffee or a quick bite after work. This way, if you and your date aren’t vibing, the date will be short and sweet and you can avoid the awkwardness of being stuck in an uncomfortable situation.
As the famous saying goes, you only have one chance to make a great first impression.
Make sure you look your best for your date. So put on your best get up, a fresh face and friendly smile.
Ladies, this means picking an appropriate yet stylish outfit and always wear makeup. Remember to dress for the date. If you’re meeting up for cocktails, try going for something that’s both trendy and sexy such as skinny jeans with boots, a flowy blouse and statement necklace.
Gentlemen, for an example of how to look dapper on your night out, check out our blog on first date fashion.
No one likes waiting. Being late for a date can make a great impression turn sour really quick.
If you are running late, for some unforeseen reason, be respectful and let the other party know. Communication is key.
Nowadays, it may seem like chivalry is dead. Bring it back!
For the men, impress your date by opening doors, using appropriate language and offering small gestures of affection, if appropriate.
We live in the age of technology. It’s easy to get distracted and glued to your phone so be respectful and put it away throughout the duration of your date.
Also, avoid touchy subjects on a first date. You can go from a great conversation to total silence real quick by offending your date with controversial viewpoints. Save the debate for the third or fourth date.
Confidence is sexy.
You’ve got to walk the walk and talk the talk.
Keep body language in mind and focus on the signals you’re sending out. Are you standing tall and proud or are you slumped over? Are you looking your date in the eye when you’re speaking?
When talking with your date, don’t be afraid to have a few talking points ready. You’ll feel comfortable heading into the conversation and be able to speak with ease as you get to know each other.
Speaking of conversations, a sure fire way to make your date uncomfortable is by interrogating them.
This isn’t a job interview, so don’t treat it as such. Good conversation flows freely from person to person, so find ways to both listen and contribute.
Meeting for a few drinks is an excellent way to familiarize yourself with someone. Alcohol tends to relax us, which can help get the conversation flowing.
However, going overboard on the alcohol is a huge turn off. Limit your drink intake to two, maybe three, drinks for the initial meetup.
Pro tip: Order an appetizer or cheese platter to compliment your cocktail.
Flirting is an important part of dating. If you’re really feeling your date, use both verbal and nonverbal cues to let them know.
A short gaze into their eyes, a captivating smile, leaning in towards your date or a sweet, simple touch are all examples of nonverbal flirting cues that can take your date to the next level.
Remember a small compliment can go a long way, so tell your date how great they look. Just make sure you’re being honest and sincere with your words.
What are your best tips for successful first dates?