Texting 101
  • Posted Feb 4, 2013
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Texting is a man’s best friend. It’s non-committal, void of emotion yet capable of driving a girl crazy. But you have to be careful with the words you use via text, especially after a first date. Women read into everything, turning a smiley face, or a choice of phrase into an emotional connection that you never intended on making. So before you pick up the phone and randomly push buttons, you might want to think about the message you might be sending.


A smiley face means ‘I like you’ and a winky face means ‘I really like you’. So unless you really like her, don’t use emoticons whilst texting. Before you know it, you will be in a relationship.

After 10 PM

Maybe you just got home, or maybe you are lying in bed and forgot to text her back. Either way, texting after 10 tells her you were thinking about her while laying in bed. Which can only mean one thing..

Text Book Grammar

Just because you’re on qwerty or swipe, doesn’t mean you can throw all grammar or spelling out the window. Most girls are turned off by the laziness and the ignorance of text talk. And don’t forget about your ‘you’re’ and ‘your’s.

Watch Your Abreves

She’s not that funny. So slow down on the LOL’s, stop ROTFL and laughing your ass off. Use complete sentences and sprinkle in more variety into your conversation.

Be Textually Active

Boys are infamous for waiting hours to text a girl back, if at all. You received a text during your work out, or your drive home and you forgot to text her back. You may not think that it’s a big deal to text her back a few hours later, but she thinks you are totally not into her if your texts are coming too late.


Never sext after a first date, and when you do start sexting, take it very slow. You need to know each other pretty well to know what will and won’t fly, and never send pictures!

Have you have ever been misunderstood via text?

What is the worst texting mistake you’ve encountered? 

10 Responses to “Texting 101”

  1. JennWYP says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome on this blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements, but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” section for more details. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!

  2. Chantel says:

    I’ve had guys trying to start endless text conversations about nothing, before we even met. Please, no. Let’s establish a connection first. And stop asking me ‘what I am doing’. If you want to see me, suggest a time and a place.

    • humanbeing says:

      Yes, yes, yes!!! Three yeses, three exclamation points.

      I find it so weird to text and e-mail with strangers who may or may not be people I want to spend time with. Especially on this site. I thought this was the “let’s not spend three years texting before we meet” site… if you don’t want to talk in person, use a different site, or don’t send date offers. It’s simple, right? Lol, I don’t text that much with my friends, whom I love and cherish unconditionally… maybe because they don’t endless text bomb about nothing small talk.

  3. Drama King says:

    I’m really surprised how many single women have children on this site. What’s up with the guys? Were they that idiotic, thoughtless, or irresponsible, or that much of a loser, or am I just old-fashioned? There’s no way in hell I’d let a woman have my baby unless I knew I could completely commit to her, and I to the child. I’m all for shotgun weddings.

    • Oliver says:

      No, you’re just a Drama King who vents off topic.

    • Lore says:

      We are living in the 21st century, marriages or relationships sometimes don’t work for many reasons, it’s perfectly acceptable to be a single parent. Times have changed.

      • Robert says:

        No, not really. It’s not “perfectly acceptable”, as study after study concludes that single parenthood is the most accurate predictor of future poverty, by far. The breakdown of the family is at the core of our cultural and economic decline as a nation. It’s sad, but true. Blame is to be had all around….for the man, he should accept his responsibility and either use birth control or else be around as a parent. For the woman, using birth control and/or choosing your sexual partners more carefully will go a long way in avoiding this condition. The day it became “acceptable” marked the beginning of the end, unfortunately. Actions have consequences.

  4. MissDani says:

    This is a very good topic, and i love some of the suggestions, what i didn’t love, however, is how this makes all women look clingy and desperate. Yes, be ‘textually active’ don’t wait hours, don’t dive into sexting and please PLEASE know the difference between there, their and they’re! Grammar is key! but i disagree with the text after 10 means thinking about you in bed, some ppl are night owls, and smiley faces sometimes just put flavor in the text, or you were just smiling. Doesn’t always mean that the women will want to run off and get married bc you sent a smiley face at 10:30 (not all of them anyway). but this text etiquette is very important. Good Job.

  5. Man says:

    I can agree with most of the hints. BUT not answering does not mean the man is not interested. Most of the men work very hard and very much and have to travel for business. So it is a good way to answer and tell her in your answer why it takes to long. E.g. “Sorry for the delay. I was in the plane from … to … or I was in a conference / meeting / driving or at a business dinner.” It is important that you are honest.
    I strongly disagree with the 10 pm rule. I don’t know in which part of the world you are at 10 in your bed but not in the metropols of the world. So till midnight is acceptable.

    • humanbeing says:

      I strongly agree with integrity in all you do and say approach, and that not answering right away is fine. (It’s the not answering at all that is rude, rude, rude.) I am busy, too, so I am not a fan of the phone blowing up and then a lot of added drama about why I’m not responding instantly. “Needy, clingy, I wish you didn’t have my number now.”

      But until someone knows me, I agree it’s not good manners to text before 8/9 am and after 10 pm… especially to invite me for a drink-I drink very rarely but all my profiles say “non-drinker”, I should add “non-texter” lol

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