Grey areas. They’re never something positive, unless we’re talking about last names. And we all know that goes for only one man, and he happens to be fictional. In casual dating, it can be hard for both men—and women—to determine what type of relationship they are in. Here are a few tell-tale signs that it isn’t casual anymore or that person wants to be exclusive.

1. They stay for breakfast

Given that you want them there.

2. They know your friends (or at least roommates names)

Showing an interest in your life means that your partner cares about being a part of it.

3. They do thoughtful things

You told him/her that you were sick and they brought you a care package. They’ve helped you wash your car when you sprained your wrist. Anything that your nicest friend would do.

4. You post pictures of your outings on Facebook

Clearly you aren’t ashamed or trying to limit the social media footprint of your relationship. In fact, you are proud of that picture you took while rock climbing upside-down.

5. You have cleaned clothing they left behind at your house

This shows that you care for that what belongs to the other person, and vice versa.

6. You hang out without drinking

If you can see each other without the need of liquid courage or impeded judgment, then you’re more interested in the actual conversation versus the sex.

7. They’ve ditched plans to hang out with you

A few times that really meant something to you. If this happens too often, then you might be guilty of neglecting your friends.

8. You feel weird if he or she hasn’t contacted you in three days

People still apply the three day rule when dating someone new. If he or she hasn’t left a word in three days or vice versa, but you feel the need to drop a line then the feelings may be deeper than casual.

9. You gone on two consecutive dates in the same week

Note that this only counts for dates. There is a difference between dating and hooking up each time.

10. They’ve met your family

This is the ultimate sign of trust. If you have gone this far, you should already know the other person wants more than just a casual dating buddy.

It’s always important to stay aware of what stage your relationship is in. Communication is key to avoid any grey areas, or hurt feelings. If your relationship is clear of these signs, then feel free to continue casually dating until they appear with one of your prospects.

What are other signs that your relationship should be exclusive?

Have you ever had to deal with grey areas?