Relationship Milestones: Is it Love or Lust?
  • Posted Jan 3, 2013
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Love is blind, but the same can be said about lust. That strong, physical attraction one feels at the beginning of a relationship can often be misinterpreted as something greater. As men, we are genetically programmed to reproduce. This is why we make rash decisions or engage in questionable relationships: sex.

Sex is powerful, and at times, a driving force. And it is the most common element among love and lust.

So how can one really tell the difference between simple infatuation and a potential storybook ending?

Ask yourself the following questions…

Do you prioritize her looks over everything else?

Do you habitually disregard/lose focus of conversations?

Do you only call her on weekends and/or late nights?

If you said yes to ONE of these questions, you have fallen in lust, not love. A man in lust believes that a woman’s beauty if her most important attribute. While beauty is valuable, it will never anchor a relationship. After all, one can only look at a girl for so long before they have to actually engage in meaningful conversation.

Let’s try some more…

Do get lost in conversations and kill time very easily?

Do you know how to make each other laugh?

Do you share common goals and interests?

Do you actively find reasons to hang out or spend time with her?

Has she met any of your family? Closest friends?

If you answered “yes” to the majority of these questions, then you are in love. A man in love values chemistry as much as physical beauty. After all, a great relationship is about two things: appreciating the similarities, and respecting the differences.


What are some other characteristics of love and lust?

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