Online Dating: The Confidence Booster


Feeling a little depressed recently? Perhaps your summer didn’t quite turn out the way you planned. Your buddies said this would be the best summer ever, with trips to the beach and parties that lasted all night long. But, here it is mid-August, and that “unforgettable” summer mainly consisted of too many beers and too few ladies.

I’m tired of hearing both girls and guys go on and on about how hard it is to date or find “the one.” Summer is made for flings, so why aren’t you having one? Most importantly, the right girl or guy will make you feeling amazing. This will boost your confidence while spicing up your summer. You still have time, all you need to do is put a plan into action.

Do Something

It’s 2014, and sadly enough, people rarely meet in person anymore.

“I had this guy leave me a voicemail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”  – He’s Just Not That Into You (2009)

But since everyone is clearly obsessed with technology, you can use this to your advantage! Break the ice online by shooting her a couple of compliments from the get-go, and she’ll be more than likely to reciprocate this gesture. Stop sending the typical, boring, “Hey beautiful, what’s up?”  messages. No one has time for that. If you aren’t hearing back from her, that’s probably why.

Instead, write something such as, “Your smile is contagious, and now I can’t stop smiling.” Beauty is as beauty does—a nice nudge typically receives a playful push. Send a compliment to 10 people. Sure, you may not end up on a date with all of them, but you may receive 10 compliments. I guarantee you’ll be glowing all day.

Bid, Bid, Bid

Bids are amazing icebreakers, and they help you find a date faster. But, you don’t want to lose sight of the bigger picture. A bid can be a compliment or an insult. Offering someone $20 for a date is not going to make them feel special. You don’t have to offer $100, but make sure you set a price that fits both your wallet and caresses her self-esteem.

Real World, Real Life

receiving a complimentThe physical date can be the real boost of confidence. If a girl is into you she’ll show it. But how do you know? Well, when a date is going well, spectators can clearly call it. She’ll be laughing, touching your arm, and deeply engaged in conversation.

New, successful relationships are always uplifting. This is where you tell her how you love her outfit, hair color and even minute things like the way she crinkles her nose when she laughs. The right girl will do the same in return by telling you how she digs your nerdy shirt collection, freckles, and facial hair. Your coworkers are bound to notice a little spring in your step — this is exactly what you need.

Summer is not the time to act gloomy, in fact, this is the height of dating season. So start messaging, and stop moping!

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