Things have become pretty serious with your new significant other and as the holidays draw closer, you’re considering making an introduction to the family. This is a big step in a relationship, and can be stressful, but if you’re sure it’s the right time, then have confidence in your decision. Here are some easy tips to make sure everyone feels comfortable when meeting the parents.
Talking to your S.O. and parents about what to expect is an easy way to lay the groundwork for a successful first holiday together. Everyone will want to avoid awkward silences as much as you do, so fill them in on any details prior to meeting. The more you share about your new love beforehand, the easier conversation will flow. Background information will help them come up with questions so they too can get to know your new love.
Also be sure to prep your boyfriend or girlfriend about any family drama. Maybe your mother hates your stepmom, this will be pertinent information so he / she doesn’t bring up the lunch you three had together last week and send your mom into a jealous fit.
It’s impolite for him / her to bring up their own accomplishments, but you can, and should. Talk about what a great talent she has. Bring up the big promotion he just got. Praising them in front of your parents will make them feel good, and help your family to see their best side.
When you return home for the holidays, you’re in your comfort zone, it’s easy to forget your S.O. isn’t feeling the same way. Everything is new to them, be sure to make them feel extra welcomed and comfortable, especially include them in your family traditions. Remember how you felt meeting the parents for the first time and this will help guide your behavior to consistently make your boyfriend or girlfriend feel like part of the family inside of an outside observer.
Again, your beloved is totally out of their element. You may be tempted to watch sports with your father and brother, or help in the kitchen, but don’t leave your S.O. on their own to make awkward conversation with your elderly grandparents. In this situation, you need to put them first. They’ll feel more at ease, which will help the entire holiday get together to have the most positive outcome.
Whatever happens, act natural and stick by your partner’s side. Your family will see how happy you are with your partner and they’ll be happy for you!
What tips have helped in the past for making sure meeting the parents is a great experience for everyone?