How to Get a Second Date – Tips from Brandon Wade
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Brandon Wade had the pleasure of being featured on FOX5 Las Vegas. There, he shared some important advice for landing the second date on What’s Your Price. Here are three crucial tips that can be the difference between one and many dates:

1.) Be Confident, Not Cocky 

Show him or her your confidence.  Let’s face it: no one is attracted to extreme shyness or cockiness.  And nothing is more unattractive than a guy or a girl who isn’t sure about himself or herself. Fortunately, confidence is something you can practice and become better at.

2.) Add Value to Their Life 

Show him or her that you are amazing to be around, that you add value to their lives in ways no one else can.  This is obviously different for everyone.  If you are funny, make him or her laugh.  If you are wealthy, show your generosity by taking her shopping.  If you have a killer body, dress to impress–even better, dress to kill. If you are adventurous, then plan an adventurous date–think “sky diving” or “roller coasters.”

3.) Plan the Second Date, On the First Date 

Don’t end the first date without planning the second date.  And never have sex on the first date. Sometimes, even if a date goes so well, two people go home and never see each other again simply because they never planned the second date.  So while you are having a good time, that’s when you should start talking about a second date.

Say, “I am having such a good time, and I hope you are too. Are you free next week? Because I would love to show you this different side of me.”

Mystery is good–it makes people yearn for more.  This is also why you should never jump into bed after the first date.  When you give out too much too soon, you are no longer mysterious.

 

What else works for landing a second date? What doesn’t?


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10 Responses to “How to Get a Second Date – Tips from Brandon Wade”

  1. Leroy says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome in the blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” for more details. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!

  2. bobby the k says:

    Good write up. Thanks for the tips, will keep them in mind.

  3. bobby the k says:

    The nice thing about this site is being able to get the practice. I was a horrible dater before I joined this site, and now I’m really getting better, although I’m still learning date by date. Boy, when I look back on my first date on this site, I was horrible. I apologize to the woman who had to be the first to date me, but I look forward to the future ones. It’s nice to learn women, even beautiful ones, don’t like a jerk, a commonly stated myth. Kudos to this site, and thanks for starting it.

  4. Eric says:

    Good write up! The one challenge with this site is that I wanted a second date a few times, but they wanted me to offer the same price the second date. So, it’s kind of pointless if all they want out of the date is the monetary value of the date. Agree or disagree? It’s a great site though, and I’ve met plenty of beautiful women on it.

  5. Gary says:

    Eric, I went on a first date with a really beautiful, nice lady, enjoyed her company, and felt we had a lot in common; so I wanted to see her again. I was getting some mixed signals, though, and wasn’t sure how she would respond. What I did was say, “I’d really like to see you again, and I’m willing to pay for that date too so we can get to know each other better.” She liked that, we had the second date, and then saw each other a lot without me paying for that. We didn’t end up a couple, but we ended up great friends. Some of the women on here just want the money, although they’d prefer it from someone they like; others are looking to meet someone they can really have a relationship with, maybe even long term. Whether you pay for a second date may vary depending on what you want and what you’re “reading” in terms of the reason for any interest they’re showing. I don’t know that there is a right or wrong to it; just what works for you.

  6. Marie says:

    If you’re not looking for a Sugar Baby, back off of the women who’s profiles say “mutually beneficial relationship”. I mean, common sense. We’re in it for money, and most of us aren’t going to take poor saps for their cash if they’re not looking for what we’re looking for.

    I have, however, seen a lot of disrespect towards those of us(who are female, of course because “double standard”) seeking mutually beneficial relationships. I would like to say that if it is an option on the site, don’t go around bashing people who choose it.

  7. bobby the k says:

    I don’t know if I agree with Marle, unless she’s talking about those who have only clicked ‘mutually beneficial’. There are women who are marking all the options. And I’ve been out with beautiful women on this site who, looking back, could have charged triple their price, but still went out with me. As long as you treat them like a lady, as someone to appreciate, you’re ok.

    But my big question is the ones who charge an exorbitant amount, but who are not very nice people on the date. I am very set on making a commitment and paying the amount accepted. But if a woman is arrogant and rude on the date, I feel really reluctant to pay them, although I do it anyway.

    I’ll never forget the one I went out with, right off the bat, she was so rude and arrogant. I just kept my cool and paid her what she had asked, but boy, I know I’ll have the last laugh when she loses her looks, because women like that don’t realize they don’t own their beauty. Their beauty is pure luck and will fade fast. That’s the great thing about Time, the great equalizer.

    Now, for those of you women who are classy, and appreciate how short-lived your beauty is, that’s another story. I bow to you with respect and honor.

  8. ac says:

    My $0.02 on this… (that’s not a reasonable price for a date, but for an opinion I guess it should be okay).

    If you’re on this site, it’s because you’re willing to trade money for companionship at some level, whether it’s purely for an activity partner, or whether you are looking for more from a relationship, the money is embedded in the relationship from the start and cannot be detached from it.

    I’ve been on a few -pretty much asexual- first, second and third dates on this site with some really fun people, and I’ve been happy to pay for it, for the first date or thereafter, because the women on this site are here for the money. Doesn’t make them bad people or uninteresting or any of the other stuff, but that’s their business model. If you get a really great haircut from a hairdresser would you consider asking her to lower her price the next time?

    I agree about the price, though. When I see date offers in a certain price range (for me $100-150), it suggests to me that the person is interested in me as well, and isn’t seeing this solely as an okay-fork-it-over-and-f**k-off type deal.

    On the other hand, “outlier” offers (for me around or over $200, your mileage may vary) are often associated with rude behavior, and ironically I rarely follow up on my most expensive accepted dates, because the person quickly comes across on email as someone not worth wasting an evening on…

  9. Marie says:

    I do think over a hundred is simply too much. I also think that joining a site where people basically buy first dates and then being rude to someone so generous is in bad taste. Being both arrogant AND greedy are terribly unattractive.
    I generally like to do what’s fair. I only mark the option I’m interested in, I don’t overcharge someone for a simple dinner, and I definitely don’t want to come off as rude. A lot of people on this site are creating bad rapports for both genders and it’s really hard to pick the good from the bad.

  10. Bice says:

    I’m not sure if it’s necessarily a good idea to plan the 2nd date whilst still on the first – what if one party doesn’t want a second date? You don’t want to make the rest of the evening uncomfortable, or for one person to feel pressured into a second date…no?

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