How to Date After Divorce
  • Posted Mar 12, 2013
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We’ve all heard the statistics: 50% of all marriages fail. So why are we so surprised when it happens to us? 1 in 4 of all WhatsYourPrice members are divorced or separated. But is dating after divorce really much different than dating for the never-betrothed? Here are a few things you might want to remember before you jump back into the dating scene.

Don’t Air Your Dirty Laundry

What you say (or don’t say) about your ex can really affect your chances with someone. Even if she was a nagging witch or he you caught him with his assistant, leave the dirty details at the door. Your date doesn’t need to know what went wrong, at least not on the first date. Be honest with out spilling everything and making yourself look like a gossiping, self-deprecating fool.

Don’t Be Desperate

Just because it’s been awhile– doesn’t mean you should jump back on the horse with just anyone. The first person you meet is most likely not going to be the next love of your life, so take your time.

Be Honest

They say it takes half the length of your relationship to get over someone, which makes it more important to take your time before getting into another relationship. Being divorced doesn’t have the stigma it used to have for a single women, and dating may come easy to you. But be honest to yourself and your date about where you are at emotionally.

Don’t Go Through The Motions

So what if you haven’t dated since you were 22? That doesn’t mean you should let them take control of the date while you sit back and awkwardly answer questions as if you are being interviewed. Be engaged, take initiative and participate in the conversation. Give yourself a chance to make a connection and don’t make your date do all the work.

How to End the Date

It’s a first date so set your personal standards and rules before you leave. No matter how well the date goes, remember this is your first new kiss, first anything, since your husband or wife. You’re going to be nervous no matter what, so better to leave the …. for date number two.

Dating after divorce isn’t really as daunting as everyone thinks. If you are getting divorced, you have probably at least figured out what you don’t want in a relationship, and have a better handle on what you need. Which means you are already way ahead of the game.

What are your tips for dating after divorce?

Do you think it’s harder to date after your divorce?

4 Responses to “How to Date After Divorce”

  1. JennWYP says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome on this blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements, but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” section for more details. Now comment away and let’s enjoy the blog!

  2. Bee says:

    Anyone having issues with the new format? When it shows I have 1 or 2 people who have accepted my date, it does not tell me who they are. There is no indication, no highlighting nothing. When I click on the number nothing happens.

    I’ve contacted customer service before and they never really figured it out. I just happened to click on the correct person on the long list of people on the right side of the page. Now I’ve gone to customer service again, several times, they don’t understand my question (or don’t read my question).

    How are you supposed to tell which guy accepted your offer if clicking on the “Dates” column does nothing and nothing else is highlighted??? This is nothing but a guessing game at this point. Totally inadequate.

  3. Joel Lamas says:

    How for a person who was never married and has never been with a wome for 33 years. What advise would you give him. He’s been rejected so many times and no one talks to him. How can he approve his image and change his personality thats honest when being himself is not enough?

  4. Bella says:

    Joel, I think you have to look in many different arenas. Putting your money out first won’t help if you don’t have the confidence to believe a girl will like you when you’ve actually got her on the date. Look at your interests and what you’re good at- it’s doing those things that will help with confidence and eventually you’ll meet someone who appreciates you for your skills and insights into things she enjoys as well. As for this site, try putting in your “first date expextations” section that you’d like to find a tennis partner, business contact, Warcraft enthusiast, etc. Being specific with what you’re looking for will help you find the girl who is looking for you!

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