I’m not going to inspire you with empty words about how this is YOUR year or how you are going to end your single streak and find the man or woman of your dreams in 2013. You are getting that from everyone else, so you don’t need that from me. I will tell you that it’s not them, it’s YOU. You are the reason why you are still single, not them. The only person you can be responsible for in a relationship is yourself, and while it’s true that bad things sometimes happen to good people, at the end of the day it’s up to you to make your own luck. You have to be the star of your own life, not a supporting character.
You shouldn’t let others define you, or determine your happiness or outlook on life. You need to take action and take responsibility for your own fate. Forget about all you lack, and be thankful for what you do have. Everybody has something to give, something to add to someone else’s life. If you don’t know why someone should date you, then why should they? Figure out what you have to offer and go out and get what you want.
Instead of making another list of resolutions to make yourself more attractive, make an effort to get to know yourself instead. Make a point to be confident, honest and selfless next year. Stop making yourself the victim, and make yourself the hero of your story instead. If that means you have to be the villain in someone else’s, so be it. Take control of your own happiness and your own heart. Make a list of what you want, and go get it. Nice guys don’t always finish last, but the doormats and the pushovers do. You need to earn your happy ending, it’s not just going to happen to you.
Happy New Year, daters.