Ditching the Date – A Guy’s Guide
  • Posted Jul 20, 2012
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4 ways to ditch your date

You’ve used an online dating service to set up a first date and it’s not going to happen. You never should have trusted a girl with the “bathroom” pictures. She looks a lot older than she did on the computer screen, can’t hold an interesting conversation, and won’t stop talking about marriage. So you’ve already given her your offer, but now just want to slip quietly into the night like it never happened…

Scenario One: Fake an Illness.

Nope. Not gonna happen. A girl will NEVER buy this on a first date. Unlike most men, females are experts at reading body language. It’s in their nature to analyze every aspect of a situation. Plus, it’s the oldest trick in the book–that is, unless a woman herself does it.

Scenario Two: Work Emergency

Explicitly state that an unplanned circumstance occurred at work and that you need to address it immediately. Don’t give any details, apologize for the inconvenience, and explain that with your success come situations like these.

Scenario Three: Involve Other Women

If you feel that the date is going nowhere fast, then start talking about your relationship with women. And no, we don’t mean bragging about your previous exploits. (You want to come off as sensitive and not a “player.”) Talk about bad breakups, your mother, or other women in the room–basically, talk about any other woman but your date. By confiding in her and asking for her insight, she will get the impression that you view her as a friend, not a romantic lover.

Scenario Four: NEVER lead her on.

If you are not interested at all, do not give her a reason to think otherwise. Don’t sweet talk her into your bed, don’t kiss her goodnight, and don’t tell her you will call. Say that you enjoyed the evening, thank her for her time, and leave it at that. She will figure out the rest.. You can now go home and log into your online dating website and look for another date.

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14 Responses to “Ditching the Date – A Guy’s Guide”

  1. Brandon Wade says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome on the blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” page on the WhatsYourPrice blog.

  2. betty says:

    I can spot old pictures by the old fashion the men wear. You can spot a polaroid a mile away!

  3. Diana says:

    Why would a guy ditch a date he’s paying for? Just make the best of it! :)

  4. AJ says:

    I’ll give guys the same advice I gave to women: just be honest. And say it in a nice way. But if the man cancels early, he should pay the agreed upon amount UNLESS there was rampant fraud on her part (e.g, doesn’t look a thing like her photos which were probably >10 years old). That has only happened to me twice in internet dating so I guess I have been fortunate. But each time I stayed for the meal and just said “thank you for coming” afterwards. But these dates were not from WYP and should a lady deceive me on this site, I would not stay for the meal.

  5. Laurie says:

    But just because someone is older than they look in their photos doesn’t mean they aren’t still attractive and interesting…I’ve met several men who were, and it really didn’t matter to me…we still had a good time!

  6. betty says:

    Yes, some men are more photogenic then others. I have met a few that have looked way more handsome in person!

  7. Rick says:

    I am a newbie and have had 2 dates from this site. I am average in looks and above average in intelligence, class and being a gentlemen. In at least one of the dates, I could soon see that my date is a professional dater, meaning she is there to get some really expensive food for free and also get paid for being there. I had strong desire to bail in between the dates itself, but I did end up staying all the way and paid her the promised amount. As expected, I didnt hear from her again, in spite of her making me believe otherwise :). The second date was little better but I still feel many women are getting lured by the offer of an expensive date, with additional money thrown in, and are using this to their advantage.

    What do the others think?

  8. AJ says:

    I think everyone should know that WYP censors our comments on this blog. My comments — which I believe to be helpful and do not contain any prohibited material — have been under review for two days now with no approval even though others who have submitted after mine have been posted. I will be surprised if they allow this one to go through!

  9. annoyomous says:

    I’d prefer older men to younger men. They are more successful, know what they want in life and know how to treat a lady with respect…well most of them anyways

  10. Anon2 says:

    Or, here’s a novel approach. You could tell her that you’re just not feeling it, offer to enjoy each other’s company while you finish your drink, and then call it a night and say goodbye.

  11. betty says:

    Not the older guys i meet. They turned into bigger power hungry tools!

  12. AmyTameMe says:

    I believe that it is better to just be upfront about it.
    We are all adults here.
    Why sit there and make excuses to that person?
    One of your rules is to NEVER lead that person on, but that is exactly what you are doing when you are making excuses to leave the date, lol!
    I believe that we can all appreciate honesty and although we may not like it at first because its going to hurt, we will definitely be able to thank that person later on!

  13. Callie says:

    Though I sympathize with a man who feels cornered I can say from experience that as a man you should be quite open. You already know you do not wish to pursue the relationship, so what do you have to lose. I have been on a date or two with successful and mature men who simply told me what they wanted and gave me the option to respond or call it a night. In both cases I resigned myself to a little footnote in the timeline of their life and was pleasantly surprised when, upon further relaxed acquaintance, they decided they wanted to take it farther than ever planned. Ladies, keep your cool and be selfless. If that’s not who you really are than it’s time to mature a bit and deserve those knights in shining armor who are trying to get away from you.

  14. Daniel says:

    Why not just be honest? Say, “You know, this doesn’t seem to be going anywhere,” or “Thanks for meeting me, but I don’t think this is working,” and call it a night. Of course, if you are the one who’s accepted money you have an obligation to stick it out. But if you are the one paying, and if you have paid, you can say thanks for the date and good luck, and goodbye. And of course give her a ride home if that was part of the arrangement.

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