Dating Mistakes Men Make
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“This is a story of boy meets girl…

The boy, Tom Hansen of Margate, New Jersey, grew up believing that he’d never truly be happy until the day he met the one. This belief stemmed from early exposure to sad British pop music and a total mis-reading of the movie ‘The Graduate’.
The girl, Summer Finn of Shinnecock, Michigan, did not share this belief. Since the disintegration of her parent’s marriage she’d only love two things. The first was her long dark hair. The second was how easily she could cut it off and not feel a thing.
Tom meets Summer on January 8th. He knows almost immediately she is who he has been searching for.

This is a story of boy meets girl, but you should know upfront, this is not a love story…

” (500 Days of Summer)
If you were one of the unsuspecting moviegoers who watched 500 Days of Summer, towards the middle you looked to your date and wondered exactly why you were there in the first place. I mean, Tom gets absolutely crushed after not even liking Summer to begin with. Tom talks about coincidence and how that is the one thing that causes two people, who may fall in love, to find each other. What Tom doesn’t address, is what happens once you find that person, or even someone you’re slightly interested in. Here are the Biggest Dating Mistakes Men Make when dating someone new:

1.) Trying to sleep with her once appetizers are served

67% of women are skeptical that all a man wants is sex until you drop them off home. Why? Because she has had this routine done to her so many times: Men taking them out or complimenting them just to get in their pants. As Chris Rock said, “Ever since [women] are thirteen, men are offering them d—. ‘Hey, let me get that door for ya…want some d—? You’re really pretty…want some d—?'”
Be genuine. Try to avoid sexually charged questions or implications–unless she initiates it.

2.) Getting too drunk

A little liquid courage can help break the ice. Too many pints and you’ll be drowning your chances at another date.

3.) Not being assertive

Women think about the repercussion of their actions more than men do. That’s why when planning a date, a woman will usually ask the guy what he wants to do in order to win his approval and get a read on her new love interest.
Take control and suggest your favorite restaurant or bar. It will win you points for being a decision maker, or alpha male, but also give you decent fodder for conversation.

4.) Being a “know-it-all”

Counter to the above mistake, being too controlling is bad. Telling her which wine to order AND that her movie choice is passe is a definite no-no.

5.)Don’t talk about your “crazies”

Every woman has had a crazy moment. What’s even more awkward is hearing your date talk about his “crazy girl” experiences. Lay off the stories, even if their hilarious. You don’t want her thinking you hold grudges.

6.)Canning the mystery

Ok, so you’e secured a few dates and now you are officially “dating”. Keep an air of mystery about. Men shouldn’t stop trying to impress a girl once he “has” her. Which means, a no video game and dirty laundry or dishes zone when she’s at your apartment.

What do you think of these dating mistakes men make? Gentlemen, have you ever been guilty of any of the above mentioned?

3 Responses to “Dating Mistakes Men Make”

  1. Angela says:

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  2. Baby Phoenix says:

    I agree completely. One of the most appealing things in a man is when he knows how to drink and “drop hints” with class. When a guy shows up for a first date and immediately you know he just wants sex, it’s not good. I love when a man has a sexy approach and is very smooth with his timing and hints.

  3. Man says:

    I agree. I think the most difficult question in all is at the end of the date. Bringing the girl home or ordering her a cab. Especially if you have opposite ways to go home.

    My experience is if you have the same way home take a cab. Don’t take a car to a date. To a good dinner you need a glass of wine and after a glass of wine driving is irresponsible.
    If you are lucky that you both have the same way home take a cab and most of the girls will make it clear if you should drop her or stay.

    If you are unsure organize your date as 2 location date, first a dinner and second for a cocktail. So between these two locations you can take a cab and see if she enjoy your company or if she takes your arm, hand or shoulder.

    So the best day for a date is a friday evening or better saturday evening.

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