A Step-By-Step Guide to Being a Gentleman
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Here are some of the easiest ways to prove that chivalry is, in fact, not dead. It’s quite simple: The more you say “Yes,” the better off you are. For some, these polite reminders will be a walk in the park. And for others? Well.. you thank us later.

Arriving At Her Place

1) Did you greet her with flowers?
2) Did you politely shake her hand while introducing yourself?
3) Did you offer her your arm?
4) Did you walk her to your car?
5) Did you open the car door for her?

During Dinner

1) Did you open the restaurant door for her? Or if it is revolving, did you push it first?
2) Did you take care of drinks while waiting to be seated? When seated, did you pull out her chair?
3) Did you wait to eat until she took her first bite?
4) Did you stand up when she left/arrived at the table?
5) Did you pay for dinner, even if she offered to split the bill?

During Conversation

1) Did you avoid cursing?
2) Did you avoid interrupting her?
3) Did you avoid looking at your cell phone?
4) Did you maintain eye contact during exchanges?
5) Did you treat the servers with respect?

After Dinner

1) Did you offer her your arm?
2) Did you put on her coat? Or if she does not have one, did you offer yours?
3) Did you walk on the side of the street closest to traffic?

Dropping Her Off

1) Did you walk her to her door?
2) Did you thank her for the night and hug her/kiss her on the cheek?
3) Did you avoid “jumping” to conclusions? (You know what we mean.)

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48 Responses to “A Step-By-Step Guide to Being a Gentleman”

  1. Brandon Wade says:

    All personalities and perspectives are welcome on the blog, while personal attacks and name calling are not. It’s inevitable that there will be disagreements but let’s handle it as mature adults with class to keep the dialog constructive and respectful. Please refer to the “Blog Etiquette” page on the WhatsYourPrice blog.

  2. betty says:

    Love this!

  3. betty says:

    One of my dates asked what my favorite perfume was and he gave it to me roght away with the payment. I thought that was way better than flowers.

  4. Kokietka says:

    I couldnt agree more with this. I totally love it. Great job Brandon. Awesome!!!!

  5. T says:

    I wish it was applicable to this site. The guy certainly isn’t going to be picking me up at my house or dropping me off there on the first date, lol.

  6. James says:

    Guys we should all listen to this and try to plan our dates by this example. The women on here deserve respect and to be treated like a lady. You get alot further with sugar then lemons. Most second dates are strictly based on the way you treat them on the first date, along with chemistry. As I was brought up and raised by. Treat a woman like a lady even if she doesn’t deserve it…. Excellent advice because some one else might notice you treating her right…. Wether she deserves it or not, and might lead to a possible connection that way if your date doesnt work out.

  7. Angela says:

    Guys, you should really follow these advices because some of you have complained that some of the girls here just take the money and run or that they won’t contact you anymore after the 1st date.
    There’s plenty of reasons why a girl might not give you a 2nd date, here’s some of them:
    a) You might be right, when she saw your profile she wasn’t interested in meeting you and she only wanted to get some extra money.
    b) She liked your profile and she thought that if you were as good as in your profile and you are willing to pay to meet her she would like to get to know you because it shows that more than likely you have a job, it’s nice that you are going the extra mile to meet her, and if you are different in person at least she got compensated to give you a chance.
    c) She was really intrigued by your profile, she doesn’t need the money you are gonna pay her (because she has a job) and she is really looking to find a guy to date on a regular basis but after she met you you did any or several of the deal breakers (mentioned on the “deal breakers blog”), she just didn’t feel the chemistry or she realized that you wouldn’t be a good match for her and that’s why she didn’t contact you anymore….just like it would happen when you meet someone ANYWHERE ELSE and after the 1st date if you know that person is not a good match for you you won’t contact them again.
    So guys not everything is black or white, what I’m trying to say is that if you don’t get a 2nd date it’s not always because the girls just wanted your money, be honest with yourself and analyze what you do and say on a 1st date and make changes if necessary.

  8. Angela says:

    I like gifts (I know, I know..who doesn’t) in my case I like flowers, actually just 1 flower will make me happy, I also like a card in which he writes something like he is really happy to meet me……..little things like that are not that expensive, it doesn’t take a lot of your time and it makes a difference when your meet someone for the 1st time.

  9. betty says:

    I find it hard to believe that a girl would tell a guy shes just dating for the money. Why? Because you may not pay her for the date you are having. I hate when guys lie and make up a story when it is just something they think is on the girls mind.

  10. John says:

    all this site does is give a new way for women to be ESCORTS…. which offer PAID DATES for time and companionship. simple truth if you accept money for a date that is what you have become

  11. betty says:

    Yes, john. And escort i heard is legal but most use it to hide they do sex for money and that is not legal. Just like a dancer gets confused with a stripper.

  12. Sophie says:

    A date you are paid for where you do not have sex is not being an escort. Its called being compensated for your time. Just like being a Sugardaddy is not a punter. They are finding value in someone beautiful x

  13. Angela says:

    I think you don’t understand how this site help guys in online dating.
    In other sites guys won’t receive as many messages as girls, not even the cute ones, they actually have to work for hours sending messages and if they get lucky and get 5 responses out of 100 messages they send, they could be talking back and forward with this girls for weeks before they go on a 1st date, that’s such a waste of time, and I think all men that has tried other sites will understand what I just said.
    If you took your time to get a profile here is because you have wasted your time enough in other websites, (no man would try this website if their inbox in other dating websites was full with messages from hot girls ready to go out with them)
    If you think the girls here are escorts and you still signed up then somehow you like the idea of this website or why do you have a profile here just to talk bad about the members that prefer this website over other?
    If you don’t like it just go back to regular sites and don’t waste your time posting negative comments because your are gonna need that time to send hundreds of messages in other sites with less luck than you have here.

  14. WYP Expert Dater says:

    Well that advice column and the comments have made me lol. You women should consider yourself extremely lucky that there are so many desperate, lonely men on this site that they actually believe that your going out with them with the possibility of a relationship. In two years and hundreds of contacts I would estimate 5% of the women on this site have any interest in an actual relationship with the guy thats taking them out. I love the site and it works for me because I screen everyone before the date even begins. With a few simple questions in a 5 minute conversation I eliminate 95% of the serial one daters on this site and the ones only interested in money arrangements. Its not too hard guys. Take the time to screen these women. Take the time to come up with a few quetions that when asked will illicit a response; not yes or no questions. Women love to talk and will let you know what they really want when given the chance. Here is one simple rule that will eliminate many without any effort: DO NOT go out with one of these women unless they give you their number and you call them. If they wont give you their number theres not a shot in hell there going out with you for anything but money. Most likely they have a loser boyfriend that has no money and want yours. Good luck and remember only 5 out of every 100 is going to actually be in this for what your looking for.

  15. rob says:

    I love this site i have only been on a few one dates for coffee and loved my time with the girls.But then I love to heir about what other peoples have to say. I was offered a second date but thought it prudent too leave it as she was a lot younger than me.The girls/woman I have dates on this site i have found genuine and interesting. If you dont like this site i suggest you leave and let the rest of us who live in the real world enjoy it.

  16. rob says:

    Wyp expert dater ,
    I feel ashamed i am a male when i here such arrogant talk.You seem to make one rule for you and a differant rule for them.

  17. betty says:

    Rob, wyp expert dater is the kind of rude men we have to deal with!

  18. Sophie says:

    What I dont get is the hostility on these blogs towards sugarbabies. A mutually beneficial arrangement is an option that can be ticked. So if a girl has it ticked, that is the only clue you need to know she wants an arrangement.

    There are a lot of girls who want arrangements, who also want a mentor, a friend and a confidante. Like everything else in life. It takes all sorts. So there can be no one size fits all approach.

    Like any dating, 90% of the dates you go on wont result in further dating. Adding money to the mix does not always guarantee a better chance.

    If the thought of paying girls for dates repulses some of the ‘gentlemen’ so much, pray do tell, why are you on here?

    This site does not hide what its for. Regular dating sites are much more suited to people who do not want to run the risk of being used for their money.

    There are some who realise the beauty of the idea. And have benefited from it. Some don’t. No drama. Just move on and try something else.

    If there are men who cannot be a gentleman on a blog, I dread to think what they are like on a date! x

  19. Magno says:

    Am I missing something? Why does wyp expert’s post come off as being rude? (Besides, perhaps the suggestion that many of ladies on the site have loser boyfriends, of course….ok, I get that this was crass)..

    But, I actually agree with his assessment that screening of some manner is important. For example, the way I differentiate a serious woman from one that uses a shotgun approach, blanketing a vast number of male members with ‘winks’, is to simply ignore winks from women altogether.

    By using this simple method, I have been able to separate the flakes from the 3 sincere women that bypassed the nonesense and decided to tender offers to me instead.

    Wyp expert’s numbers, in my opiniom, aren’t that far off. My ‘score card’ thus far has been about 80 winks, and 3 offers. So in my case, a 96.25 exclusion rate.

    To each his own. If Gentlemen don’t mind entertaining a large number of Ladies on this site that are going out on first dates with 50 others, that’s all fine and dandy. I happen to subscribe to wyp expert’s preference to zero in on women who are more discerning and selective in who they express interest in engaging with.

    And no, I am not rude or uncouth. Let’s not place jugment and lay labels on people, simply for having the courage to express themselves so honestly, and in such a blatantly straightforward manner.

    You may not appreciate the manner in which wyp expert conveys his viewpoints, but as Mr. Wade implores, we should respect that he, perhaps has a viewpoint that may differ from ours.

    It’s simple: Cross people off your list if you don’t care for how they express themselves, and move on. I know there’s at least 90 percent of profiles I will be skipping over for one reason or another. That is reality. The Ladies do the same thing. That’s life in the internet fishbowl.

  20. bobby the k says:

    Aye yay yay. I really messed up several dates later with a really nice beautiful woman due to inexperience. I had never really dated until I started using this site, and so my learning curve is huge. So ladies, just move on? Send an apology? Move forward and don’t look back? What do you think?

  21. betty says:

    Bobby, what do you think you did wrong?

  22. Angela says:

    bobby the k:
    it depends on what u did to her, do u want to share?

  23. tim says:

    I find it funny how some people have nothing better to do then post and post here…. do you seriously not have a life that u have to comment on what every person says on here… i use the site and have had a couple good dates… I am on like once every three days or so.. but some seem like they live here… get a job get a life people… there is more to life then this site.

  24. chris says:

    Tim comes on here and the first post is being mean to those who are trying to be active bloggers. That is what a blog is. Having conversation and keeping up on conversation in a timely manner.

  25. Mike says:

    Actually, men should always walk in first in public places, like restaurants, but I am sure this rule is long forgotten and would not be understood by most ladies.

  26. Angela says:

    I have a job and I can multitask, some ppl like watching a lot of tv or be on facebook all day, (I don’t) so if me and other people like to blog here and learn about what others think about dating on this website you should respect that, btw, if you noticed that some of us had posted several comments is because you had time to read more than 20 posts, and I would be wrong if I assume that you don’t have a job because of that.

  27. blankenship says:

    I can see Tim as one of those guys who you’d hate to be with in a staffroom or on a lunch break. Total negativity and judgmental about everyone’s taste.

  28. Al says:

    It’s simple: Cross people off your list if you don’t care for how they express themselves, and move on. I know there’s at least 90 percent of profiles I will be skipping over for one reason or another. That is reality. The Ladies do the same thing. That’s life in the internet fishbowl.

    True enough. If I wanted women and their problems, I’d have gone to POF. I offered to drive 250+ miles to see one gal on my time off, but she declined because she needed at least $300 a date so she could pay her rent and avoid eviction. I get the idea of sugarbabies, but I don’t want a bum loser chick, either!

    Let’s not even touch the actual escorts I’ve been winked by and have had to block and the countless number of girls who think being a broke female college kid is something unique on this site and deserves mention of being a “princess”. I’ll take that back, there are 30 and 40-somethings who want a handout, too.

    Like I said, I’m fine with the idea of sugarbabies, even though I am not looking for one. LTR, STR and F/AP are options here, too. Just like women say that there are too many unemployed guys here, fair enough. I’m tired of women who tout that they have something to offer beyond just being a female who asks for an allowance…when they don’t. I’m not even asking for sex, but I don’t have money because I set it on fire, either.

    Anyway, to the questions in the blog, my date and I met and it was in her neighborhood, so she made it first and was inside the mall already. No coats involved–this was April in Houston, TX. The socializing part went well, but it ain’t meant to be, me thinks. She doesn’t have what I consider a stable job and reading her last profile update, she’s stuck it out on daes with guys who, ahem, don’t practice personal hygiene, which makes me think it’s more money than principles for her.

  29. Magno says:

    Al hit the nail on the head, right there…bingo!

    A section of my profile reads:

    “I hold an affinity for successful, independent, self sufficient ‘mature’ Women of considerable means. (Late 30′s to early 50′s preferred).”

    And what is the highest proportion of winks that inundate my profile?….

    18 to 21 year old kids just taking off the training wheels from their bicycles.

    I am 45 years old. What could possibly motivate a 19 year old to express an interest in a man that is 26 years her senior, and hence, in her Father’s demogrsphic? It turns my stomach when I receive these winks.

    Doesn’t anyone actually read the contents of a profile?

    Where are all of the attractive ‘mature’ ladies on this site? Seems like a marketing dissaster.

  30. tom says:

    I receive so many out of state winks. I just tell them too far and i block them. I have also noticed that some of the younger ladies on here are just looking for sugar daddies. I am not looking to be one. I put so in my profile as well. I still get winks from these women. I just block them as well. Whats your price is not seeking arrangements and i wish some would recognize that.

  31. bobby the k says:

    Wow, there are some nice ladies on here. I’ll just move forward and not look back. I won’t make the same mistake next time. :)

  32. Rick says:

    Sophie and Angela you are both in denial. Being paid for a date is an escort. Being paid for sex makes you a prostitute.

    I am not saying there is anything wrong with either – but let’s not pretend that a paid date is the same as spending time with someone who is there strictly for your company with no exchange of money involved.

  33. wishing4u says:

    @WYP & Mango Sorry to interject, however I would like to point out one simple truth: The date is the screening process.” ;)

    If I go out with a guy and I think he might be nervous or not into me I might go out with him again or try to talk on the phone with him to figure out what I want. I think it’s kinda rude to just leave someone in the lurch like that, although I’m not innocent of it. It made me feel rotten.

    The truth is that all any of us need is one person. Just one. But to find that one you must search and meet many people.

    No matter what kind of relationship any one of us choose, money will come into play. It is a fact of life. I just accepted my first offer to go on a date and I’m thrilled about it. He seems like a nice guy, and even if we don’t turn into a fairytale happy ending at least I will have made a new friend. And no one is so rich as to throw away a friend.

  34. Vega says:

    I think WYP will revolutionize the entire online dating industry.

    First off no matter what happens between a man and a woman there is always an exchange of value. Simply put you can not NOT exchange anything of value whether it’s your time, love, etc, etc.

    Escorts / Prostitutes simply exchange money for sex.

    For many busy professionals in their career they reach a point where there time is VERY valuable. Let me explain, why on earth would a busy professional want to take the time to send hundreds of e-mails to get such a low response rate?

    It takes up valuable time away from work or free time. The free online sites are also a trap because you still have to put in significant effort to get any dates. The paid subscription sites are no better; you still have to send a mind-numbing amount of e-mails to get any responses. You’re essentially paying to waste your time.

    The nice thing about WYP is that you only pay when you see results. It saves time and as a result you get to meet more people.

  35. betty says:

    So true vega!

  36. amber says:

    as a woman… the fact that money is involved does speed up the meeting process. what frustrates me most about other dating sites is ive never been one that likes to email forever. i prefer one or two emails, then lets speak and or meet up… i think its crazy that people spend a month of emails trying to screen out what they can find out in one phone conversation or even better a date. not to metion; yes, i am an old fashion woman and i do expect a man to take me out and treat me. this way of meeting men weeds out the guys that cant take care of a woman(for the most part). i dont need a man to take care of me, but if the situation arose that i did need it; he would be able to be there for me… maybe im just old school.

    and its true if you dont want to put the money out there for it… you should stop belittling people here and find somewhere else better suited for your likes and dislikes… i mean really… what is the name of this website… then your going to complain about the type that fits the title here… if you cant see the trade off.. dont hang out here.

  37. Rivher says:

    I got $1 for a date, is that enough capital?

  38. This guideline for being a gentleman is really informative and very simple to understand. Thanks for sharing!

  39. Peter says:

    I found a lot of the above conversation useful. I was especially interested to get the perspective of various women to the topics discussed. In fact, there are a few I wouldn’t mind meeting/dating. Any chance of have a link to each person’s profile so we can contact them directly?

  40. Allan says:

    Most women are prostitutes and think they have the magic vagina. It’s really nothing more than a toxic smelly stink hole, yet men will do oral anything to get a whiff of that disgusting orifice. Any woman who takes Monet to go out with a man is a whore. Also these rules for being a gentleman make me sick. All it is is the man kissing the woman’s butt. It’s better to treat women
    Ike garbage; that’s the only way they every respect a man. Also, they should pay their own way. If they refuse to do that, they. An keep their toxic stink hole

  41. betty says:

    Allan, its very clear you are childish and looking for a stink hole. You have a stink stick i bet. Takes a stinky to know one! They say you hate on other people because you see something in them that reminds you of what you hate about yourself. Degrading people makes you ugly!

  42. rob says:

    Allan the only person who will ever like you is youself and you should be banned from this site.

  43. paul says:

    i think amber needs to tell me where she lives i like a woman who is old school. and as for allan he is just an angery person who needs to bring everyone down to his level to feel better about himself enough said i have went on four dates since joining this site and meet some very nice ladies who are gonna remain friends of mine for a long time so i can say that not all the women on here are just out for the money. i actually had one of them give me the money back she said she would not feel right taking money from me after the wonderful night she had but anyway thats my piece on this lol

  44. michelle says:

    Haven’t went on a date from this site yet but if the men follow at least some if these things I’ll be ok

  45. Saffron says:

    @ WYP Expert Dater:

    You say not to go out with someone unless they will give you their number. However, I have lost track of the number of men that I have given my phone number, email, Skype ID, etc. to, only to receive one call/text/email/message that was never followed through on, or plans halfway set up and then never completed, despite my best efforts to continue the exchange. Because of this, I no longer give out personal contact information until I meet someone in person and know that they will actually be responsive to communication.

  46. betty says:

    I am tired of giving out my contact info as well and then you get that random call from them at 3;30 in the morning. If a guy gets a phone number out of respect follow through and endless texting asking what are you looking for is rude as well.

  47. justasiam83 says:

    I am Tori, new on here. I am hoping to meet that “ONE “right guy for me on here, to share lots, and lots of fun,respectable and memorable moments together.. :)… and the above step by step guide to being a classy lady is very self explanatory for every woman.. You either have those vital morals or you don’t.. But trust me it is alot better to have such classy morals (although I have always fell into the hands of the wrong guys relationship -wise..yahhhh…I know…..,…….To me, having a classy morals depicts you have a good heart and only a true gentleman can appreciate such attribute in a woman…..Goodluck Ladies…:)…xx

  48. Barry says:

    Being a gentleman is overrated bullshit!

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