We’ve all been there: You meet a great guy and decide to go out on a date. In your mind you did everything right, had a lively conversation and were very open minded. But for some reason, he doesn’t call the next day, or the day after that, until a few months go by and you’re sitting having wine with your girlfriends wondering what you did wrong.
Just this week WhatsYourPrice.com conducted a survey to find the 7 Worst Dating Mistakes Women Make. What we found were the answers to the long asked, “Why didn’t he call me?”…
“A common misconception amongst women is assuming that since they already received an offer for a date then the job is done,” says Brandon Wade, CEO and Founder of WhatsYourPrice.com. “When in reality, going on the date is barely a quarter of the battle.”
The following are the seven worst dating mistakes women make in order of frequency with solutions and insight from Brandon to raise the success rate of a date.
1. Problem: Airing out dirty laundry aka the ex-boyfriend
Solution: Save it for later…or never
94% of the men claimed that they dated women who discussed their ex-boyfriends within the first or second date. “Ex-talk is the biggest travesty to creating a new relationship. It shows that the woman is really ready to move on or gotten over her ex,” says Wade. “A man wants to know that he is entering into the possibility of a new relationship, not cleaning up some other guy’s mess.”
2. Problem: Making it too easy
Solution: Play the game
“Men love a good challenge. That’s why you have fantasy football, when they aren’t playing the actual sport and video games, when they aren’t at the gym with their buddies,” says Wade. “In theory women have it right: Don’t play games if it will hurt someone. Do be coy, playful, and mysterious during your date.” Men who feel they won something are more likely to be excited by the next date.
3. Problem: Laziness
Solution: Be your own ambassadors
“Treat it like a business meeting. You have one hour to show your date confidence, grace, and wits–essentially what a good investment you are. Women will avoid speaking about their quality. Instead they launch into the boring speech about what their daily routine is like. It sounds too close to chores, which men hate.”
4. Problem: Giving out too much information
Solution: Save the eccentricities for date number 4 and beyond
“Another study we conducted found that men find quirkiness endearing. However, it also revealed that women should wait at least until the 4th date to begin talking about her peanut allergies or fear of clowns. Delving too soon on such topics comes off as hyper-neurotic.
5. Problem: Settling to get a relationship.
Solution: Be honest
“In the rules of attraction, the opposite sex will mimic what it is attracted to. Unfortunately, women often sell themselves short this way,” says Wade. SeekingArrangement.com polled 2,000 female members and found that 44% of women claimed that, whether or not a man said he was not looking for a serious relationship, they would mimic his ideals to seem more attractive.
6. Problem: Broaching the subject of sex.
Solution: Keep it to yourself, at least until the goodnight kiss
Men said they found it off-putting when a woman says, “I don’t sleep with men on the first date” unprovoked during the first date. Such a statement, even in good taste makes you seem uptight and untrusting. Instead wait until the end of the date, if a guy is not invited in then it’s a graceful way of getting your point across.
7. Problem: Jumping the gun
Solution: Ask about his values and ideals
53% of men said they prefer women who talk about their goals and aspirations for growth as an individual, rather than talking about marriage and children.
How many of us have been guilty of those Seven Dating-Deadly Sins? We polled members to determine the percentage of women committed them. Each woman was allowed to select multiple answers for those who fell under more than one type of dating mistake. Who was guilty?
• 79% – Talking about their ex on a date
• 65% – Making it too easy
• 51% – Laziness, not promoting themselves
• 48% – Giving out too much information
• 44% – Settling to get a relationship
• 43% – Broaching the subject of sex
• 13% – Jumping the gun
Have you committed any of the Seven Worst Dating Mistakes?
What are some other examples? Which do you think is the worst?